Last week a dear friend told me that he was so proud of me for taking this next step in my life even though it is scary. I thought about his words later and realized that I am not afraid. I am boldly charging forth into a new job and a new mortgage payment all on my own.
Once I made the decision almost two months ago that it was time to leave my husband, I have not been afraid. I pictured myself as the person in Psalm 18 who was pulled out of the raging storm and set safely high on a rock.
Previously, I was afraid to leave him because I feared that history might repeat itself. Maybe he would fall down in an open doorway and freeze to death. Maybe he would forget to shut the front door and be harmed by intruders. Maybe he would fall and bleed to death from a head wound. Maybe he would be reckless with the space heater and burn to death. Situations like these and others which he was saved from in the recent past filled my memory.
Maybe that friend thought I would be scared, after three decades of marraige, for stepping out on my own without a husband. In reality, it has been many years since I had a husband who was the leader of this marraige. Partly because he opted out with his alcoholism, partly because I can be strong willed and independent. I have never been the fainting damsel in distress.
I have been impatient while waiting to get a job so I could buy a house. I have been unsure of whether it was God’s plan for me to be a nurse or go back to a minimum wage job. I was unsure of whether God would want me to live in a small apartment by myself to learn life lessons which I need, or to have a large house of my dreams with my piano and my dogs. I just knew that I needed to get away from my husband so that there will be room for him to achieve real repentance and change. And, I knew that God is always good to me.
God indeed has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams. I did pass the licensing exam and was given a job that is totally suited to my abilities and interests. I now own a house which is bigger and in better shape than I even thought was possible given my financial status.
A couple weeks ago, my Bible reading ended up in Joel 2: ” I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten…” That was the day that I found out I had passed the licensing exam and this entire process of new house and new job was set in motion. I have been blessed with much more than I ever asked for.