Your Love Never Fails

I am so thankful for neighbors who have given us buckets of water so we can flush the toilets.  I slept well and woke up exhausted.  In my mind I heard songs reminding me that I am held in the Father’s hands.  I read that God promises to never leave me, to give me strength, and to always take care of me and cause me to become more like Him.  I still feel physically tired and am emotionally level.  I am trying to not grumble or complain.  Even without running water, I have been given too many things to ever justify whining over something that is not there.  We have a house with electricity.  We have plenty of food and clothing.  I am still a bit annoyed with my husband because he has inconvenienced all of us.

I spent time this morning focusing on God through songs.  It is the only way to gain real strength, especially this morning when I would love to just crawl back in bed and do nothing all day.  Now, after worship, a chat with the water company, caffeine, and a nutrition shake, it is time to get some school work done.  Hopefully, the water can be turned on before I need to leave for class.


Blessings Unnumbered

Count your blessings, name them one by one.  Count your many blessings see what God has done.”   An old hymn with lots of truth in it.  Today I was overwhelmed with blessings.  Contact with old friends, going to church and having a grateful heart for the people there whom I have come to know, the ability to sing praise songs, the people I know through school, my relatively good health, my relatives, my children and grandchildren…

During worship at church today I needed to stop thinking of how good God has been to me.  Had I continued, I would have been a sobbing, blubbering mess on the floor because my heart was so overflowing with joy.  (I cry when I am happy.)  Really didn’t want to cause a scene like that.

At least for today, I am not going to look at all the death and dying around me.  I choose to look up.  Life can be beautiful and full of blessing and joy.

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A Second Chance?

Well my husband has mostly recovered from traumatic brain injury that occurred in November and a mini-stroke that occurred at the beginning of this year.  He is not falling down several times a day anymore.  He does not suddenly fall out of his chair, either.  He can go up and down entire stairways again.  He can speak normally.  He does not sit and stare into nothing for hours at a time.  The physical signs that told me his body was internally shutting down have disappeared.

When I talked to him about these changes and said that God is showing him mercy and kindness and giving him a chance to start living differently, his response was disbelief.  He was sober during this conversation, but still unable to see the big picture.  Why can’t he just surrender to the Creator who gives life to all?

My husband and I are so far apart in our thinking and living.  It reminds me of a song called “Just One Touch” performed by Kim Walker Smith:

“I searched the earth when all that I needed was just one touch, …my soul won’t rest ’till I find rest in You, for there is no peace, no freedom apart from You,”  This is the part that my husband just doesn’t get.  He keeps trying to find peace and freedom with alcohol and thoughts of dying.  He is content to wallow in misery.

“Here at the end of me you are my victory, I’m trading my scars for all that you are, for just one touch.”  He doesn’t see that in surrender there is true victory.  We can give all our scars, hurts, addictions, etc., to Jesus and he will give us an abundant life.

The next part of the song expresses the truth of my life:  “My joy overflows from all of Your beauty revealed to me…”  (Anatomy and Physiology class shows me every day just how awesome the human body is with its billions of cell actions and complex muscles.)  “I have been longing, I have been yearning in reckless abandon, surrendered to You, I feel Your fire, I feel You healing, all that You are is all that I’m needing,  here at the end of me, You are my victory…with arms stretched open wide come set Your heart in mine, I’m here at Your feet, Jesus I need just one touch.”

I have surrendered to the God who loves me and my heart is at peace in spite of the turmoil of my surroundings.

Pick a Different Road

What do I say to those I know who are believers in Jesus, or at least were raised in a church, but choose a lifestyle of drinking alcohol?  Several times a week they are consuming more than just one or two drinks.  Frequently they are at the point of fall-down stupid drunk.  We live in a culture that yells “don’t judge!” when a conversation tries to occur so what can I say to them?

How can I tell them that my heart breaks to see the path they are on?  Don’t they know the consequences of continuing in this lifestyle?  It might seem fun right now, but can they think ahead several months or years down the road?

Are they ready to accept heart damage, liver inflammation, pancreatitis, a higher risk of developing certain cancers and a weakened immune system?  Do they want to live with frequent stomach pain, diarrhea, loss of bladder control, sexual dysfunction, muscle cramps, and possible diabetic tendencies?

Are they ready to accept that their thought processes in the future will be really messed up?  That they could get to the point where their moods are not what they used to be and it will be difficult to think logically for any length of time?  That the ability to do simple tasks like putting on a belt will take significantly longer than normal?

If their physical bodies are working fine right now, are they willing to give that all up for muscle loss and loss of coordination?  How about loss of appetite or even throwing up while eating because of the irritation alcohol has done to the intestinal system?

Are they willing to lose their job and the dignity that comes from contributing to society?  Are they willing to be cut off from friends and family?

My whole being wants to shout at them.  I want to be in their faces to point out the wrong way they are on.  I want to open their eyes to the amazing lives they have.  I want them to be grateful for how well their bodies work right now.  I want them to have a good look at the amazing world in which we live.  How can they see all the beauty around them if they put themselves in a grey cloud of alcohol?

I wish that I could go back in time and say all these things to my husband.

The song running through my brain says, “Fresh outpouring, tear the fabric open.  Come, Jesus, come.  Breath of heaven, nothing left unshaken, we long for more. We need a fresh outpouring…”  Sometimes all I can do is pray:  Let my friends be gently pulled back to You by Your Spirit.  Remind them of how much they are loved.  Help them to live in ways that are pleasing to You.

Hospital Again!

I am so thankful for my pastor and the way he preaches through a book of the Bible a verse at a time.  Lately he has been preaching on the armor of God in the book of Ephesians.  The breastplate of Christ’s righteousness that covers me protects my heart.  The shoes of the gospel of peace remind me that I am not condemned by God anymore and I can spread that peace to others.  Those insights and more are what got me through this week.

Monday I was in the ER with my mother-in-law and then she was admitted to the hospital.

Tuesday I was with my husband at another hospital to check on his head trauma from November.  He was totally drunk and could hardly walk.

Wednesday I was with my father-in-law in the ER at the same hospital my mother-in-law is in.  He at least got to go home after several hours.

Thursday I was with my husband in the ER at a different hospital.  He had fallen face first on the concrete floor.  Ended up with only a broken nose.  Since he was very drunk, it took us 3 hours to convince him to go to the hospital.  The one benefit of that time is that I was able to bathe him and get him into clean clothes.  He really didn’t have a choice in the matter.  He was covered with blood from head to toe.  After four hours in the ER he was released to go home.

It was physically tiring to work, take care of my father-in-law, make extra driving trips each day to visit my mother-in-law in the hospital, argue with husband on why he is not going to drive anymore, and try to keep up with the daily household chores.  Focusing on what God has done for me gave me strength each day to serve my family, to be thankful for all that I have, and to keep my heart and emotions steady.

I thought alot about the song “Rescuer” by Rend Collective:   “He is pasture for the weary, rest for those who strive….so come and be chain-less, come and be fearless, come to the foot of Calvary, there is redemption for every affliction…”.

I am looking forward to a calm and uneventful Christmas.


When it Rains, it Pours

I didn’t sleep well last night.  I frequently heard our littlest dog scratching and whining.  Why couldn’t he begin this during the day?  He has long thick hair and it is very difficult to see what exactly the problem is, but I am doctoring him to the best of my ability.

Today was the day we scheduled euthanasia for our oldest cat.  Shortly before that appointment, I found out that my mother-in-law was rushed to the hospital.  I told my husband to sober up and clean up because this evening we were going to go see her.

My daughter and I took the cat to the vet, crying all the way there.  Waiting in the exam room we cried over this precious cat.  Watching him die peacefully from the injection we cried some more.  The vet gave us a nice cardboard casket so I could bury the cat in the garden.  Thankful that it was warm enough that the ground had not froze and the digging was easy.

When I walked into our house with dead cat casket in hand, I was greeted with chaos.  The dogs were not where they should have been and there was some moaning coming from the kitchen.  My husband had fallen on the floor.  He said he wasn’t hurt, but I don’t know why he was moaning.  He was pretty confused about lots of things.  Eventually he was able to get himself up off the floor.

I was so disappointed in him.  I thought for sure he would shape up enough to see his own mother in the ER.  He has a good relationship with her.  We live in the same city and see each other every week.

As I sat in my room messaging my brother-in-law who was at the hospital, I really wanted to be there.  I was emotionally torn because I don’t feel that my husband is safe if left alone.  I am concerned that he sometimes chooses to smoke around flammable materials in the basement.  I worry that he will try to cook something in the kitchen and start a fire.   I am concerned that he could  hurt one of the dogs with his very clumsy ways.  I am concerned that he will make really bad choices and the dogs will escape out the front door into the big city.  (The last time it happened it was so cold and icy that they couldn’t get very far.)

Then I heard my daughter’s voice in my head.  Last week I had told her that I felt like quitting my job to stay home and keep an eye on my husband.  Her response was quick.  “No!  Don’t waste your time on him when he does not deserve it.  You take care of old people that really need you at this time in their lives.  That is way more important.”

I decided that I would have to trust God to keep my husband, house, and dogs safe.  My dear mother-in-law was in the hospital, less than half an hour away, and I needed to be there.  So, I went alone to the hospital.  Almost four hours later I arrived home to only mild chaos.  Everybody was still safe and sound and there had been no more accidents.

I am so thankful for family.  I am thankful for medical technology.  I am thankful that God loves me way more than I had loved that cat.  I am thankful that it was in the 40s (Fahrenheit) today.   I am thankful that it was just a gentle misting rain falling while I dug that grave.

Like a Beast

On Thanksgiving weekend my husband was so drunk he fell down the steps.  He hit his head on the corner of the baseboard and was not able to get up.  If my daughter had not been there to call 911, he would have bled to death.  He was rushed to the local trauma center, given a blood transfusion and stitched up by a plastic surgeon.

Since that injury, his physical abilities have greatly decreased.  He walks very slowly and has an abnormal gait.  He has blacked out a few times.  He sleeps on the basement cement floor more than usual.  His logic is pretty much non-existent.

My husband still drinks excessively all the time.  He has become prone to crying and apologizing.  He is totally enslaved by alcohol and will just sit and do nothing for hours.

I keep thinking about how God changed King Nebuchadnezzar into a beast in order to humble him (Daniel 4).  Certainly my husband exhibits beast-like traits.  Cleanliness is not a virtue that he cultivates.  Modesty and common societal manners are foreign.

I am still waiting for my husband to humble himself before God.  A friend reminded me that as long as there is breath, there is hope.  The head trauma seems to have accelerated the physical decline that comes with alcoholism.  Hopefully he will soon choose to say with Nebuchadnezzar, “I praise and exalt and glorify the King of heaven, because everything he does is right and all his ways are just.”